31 Days, 31 Dates
Ahhhhh! My stomach has been in knots all week knowing this was coming. Why did I think this was a good idea when my friend suggested it while sitting at the bar many months ago? Could it have been the couple of drinks I had? Or was it the fact that everyone who I have told about this year-long experiment is most interested in how I’m going to pull off the month of 31 Dates?
I’m not worried about finding thirty-one dates. They don’t have to be quality (and the bad dates will probably be more interesting to read about). I’m worried about making it through the thirty-one dates and keeping my sanity. I work at a pub, so there will be times when I’m working and I will have to have a lunch date, or else find a date late at night when I’m done work. I’m sure there will be days when the last thing I want to do is talk to someone, let alone impress them on a date. I’m going to be sick of dressing to impress, drinking and eating out. Am I going to be able to keep track of all these guys? I’m horrible at rejection – what if I don’t like them? Or what if I like too many of them? Ahhhhhh! Can you tell I’m freaking out a little?
But I’m also a little excited. I get to have some interesting conversations with some people I might not otherwise get to spend quality time with. I get to enjoy dating for once in my life (I’m usually a serial monogamous, so I never really date that often before I fall into a relationship). And I get to bare my soul to everyone reading – ok, maybe this part doesn’t sound as fun as the others!
What is this month really about?
I have many friends who have a hard time finding someone they would really like to date in the city. Working in a corporate office job with a bunch of married people is not always the best way to find the love of your life. And on the opposite side, working at a pub where you’re asked out by drunk men at last call is not the best way either. What is the best way to find a mate? Do some ways work better than others? What will I learn about the dating process that might help others? What are people doing wrong? What are they doing right? Why is it so hard?
I will examine all different ways of meeting people, including set-ups, work-mates, online dating, friends, speed dating, singles nights, picking up at a bar, double dates, etc. I will speak truthfully of what works for me and how bad or good the dates are going. I will also talk about these issues on a broader scale, examining social norms, dating statistics, etc. Hopefully, in the process, I will meet someone amazing that can put up with my crazy antics and I enjoy spending time with. If not, I’ll have met a lot of interesting people and learned a lot about human nature!
- Each date will be written about on the following day (so I’m not posting late every night)
- I will not use real names, so as to protect the identity of the date – I will use nicknames to refer to them.
- Second dates are allowed, but not third or more dates.
- (I’m sure more rules will come up as I start going on the dates…)
Here we go…