Three hundred and twenty-three

Here’s a topic completely unlike anything I’ve talked about so far.  People have lots of ways of gaining extra money, from the common of picking up extra jobs, to the extreme of panhandling.  How about living off of someone else’s money?  Many families have one person work and the other stay home with the children.  Many relationships have one person make more than the other.  But what if you are seeking out this relationship of one person with a lot of money paying for the other person without?  Especially when the person with money is usually older and the person without is young and beautiful?

Sugar Daddies

Ok, I know.  I’m not suggesting that people go out and get a sugar daddy as a cure for poverty.  But it’s definitely something that exists.  There are websites where you can find sugar daddies (or sugar mamas).  There are wealthy people out there who will exchange their money for the company of a usually younger, more attractive person.

Here’s a good description of what the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship is, from

“Sugar Daddy – rich and successful. No time for games? Looking to support and pamper women who will treat you like a king? Interested in a discrete and mutually beneficial relationship? Doctors, Lawyers, Busy professionals, Benefactors.Time to be a Sugar Daddy!

Sugar Baby – attractive and young. Struggling in the early part of your career? Seeking a generous benefactor to mentor and take care of you – perhaps financially? Want finer things in life and good living? Beautiful, Intelligent and Classy Women and Models. You will make the perfect Sugar Baby! “

A friend of a friend recently made a comedic (and disturbing) video about her journey to L.A. to meet up with a sugar daddy she met online (on Craigslist).  It’s pretty funny, although the man is scary and the situation even more so:

Here are a few sugar daddy websites: (I wrote about this at the end of this post during date month, and here’s a fascinating interview on Anderson Cooper)

It’s definitely not a way I’d like to “earn” money.  But to each their own.  If they are both consenting, why not?  Although from the video above (and the Anderson Cooper interviews, especially listening to the men who pay for the women), I feel like there would be a lot of power issues going on.  If someone is controlling your money, what else are they controlling?  And how much of yourself do you have to give up to be in a relationship like this?  I’m sure there are good, well-meaning, financially well-off men out there who use these sites.  But how do you know you won’t end up with someone like the man on the video?

I do however have a boyfriend who pays for things for me sometimes when I don’t have the money, just as I pay for things when he doesn’t have the money.  Sometimes he’s the sugar daddy, sometimes I’m the sugar mama.  And lots of relationships do have one person make more money than the other and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.  Is the “sugar daddy” phenomenon just an extension of this?