Two hundred and fifteen

I made it through First Kiss Interviews month!

This month has been as much about my journey across part of Canada and the people I met, as it has been about the first kiss stories.  I am still in awe of how beautiful this country is and what a wide range of people live here.  I thank everyone who shared their story with me and took time to talk to a crazy writer from Toronto.

Recap of the month

I have been told amazing first kisses that have led to marriages, very first kisses in the playground or the field, spin the bottle, playing doctor, and disgusting first kisses.  There were first kisses with friends ‘practicing’ for the real thing, two sides of the same story, my mom’s first kiss (I can’t tell you which story it is because she made me use code names), kiss with a married man, first kisses that changed people’s lives and ones that they would rather forget.  One first kiss even caused a supernatural occurrence. I love all the stories, but here are a few of my favourites (I obviously like the romantic or funny ones):

What did I learn?

You might not think it if you met me, but I can be really shy and introverted at times.  It’s really hard for me to approach people I don’t know and ask them for something – even if it is just a story.  I don’t think I realized how personal asking someone about their first kiss can be until I started trying to ask strangers about that intimate moment in their lives.  I had to practice a way to approach the question without sounding creepy or too invasive.  Generally, though, people were so kind to share with me and actually seemed happy to reminisce about the past, even when it was a bad first kiss.

As the month went on, I almost became more interested in how the people reacted to the question of what was their first kiss, than the actual story.  I loved what a strong emotion it brought out in so many people – especially older women.  I realized a few days in that I would have a better chance getting a good story from people who I was already having a conversation and had a rapport with. So I ended up having some really great conversations with people I will probably never see again in my life.  I need to do more of that.

A few other things I learned… Women tended to remember more than men did.  Most people didn’t think their story was very interesting.  About half were bad first kisses – some even made the person swear off kissing for awhile.  Women made the first move in just over a quarter of the stories.  Most people remember the full name of their first kiss.

Where do I go from here with First Kiss Interviews?

It would be interesting to have a separate project devoted entirely to first kiss stories, perhaps where people can submit and vote on their favourites.  I don’t have the time to work on that now, so maybe one day I will, or maybe someone else will run with this idea and make it grow.

What I got out of this was how wonderful it was to talk to people from all walks of life.  I will make an effort to connect more with strangers and stop hiding in my private bubble.  Taking the time to have a small conversation with a random person can brighten your day.

Today I start a month of being vegan.  I never realized how many things have animal products in them.  This is going to be hard!

Day seventy-nine

The online-Facebook-blog-YouTube-text-finally-meeting-in-person date

The Eco-comedian. Yes, he picks up used batteries to recycle them.

The Eco-comedian first contacted me on OkCupid with a shameless plug for his YouTube page.  I watched some of his stuff and thought it was funny, so I became his fan on Facebook.  Then I plugged my blog.  He invited me to the Green Party party on election night, so we exchanged phone numbers to meet up (which we never did).  We became Facebook friends and either messaged or texted back and forth for the last few weeks.  He asks me how the dates are going.  I ask him how his mission to unite the political left in Canada by writing a song to Jack Layton is going (he’s written love songs to Green Party leader Elizabeth May and environmentalist Laurie David – see below).

Finally, after seventeen days, we met for pizza during his lunch hour from his job at an ad agency.  He wore dark sunglasses and a hat, so I didn’t recognize him at first, but I also felt like I already knew him.  He’s a pretty funny guy.  And really into eco issues.  He’s made a name for himself writing songs and doing videos that are fun and make people aware of environmental concerns.  He also does podcasts, interviews, and radio.  He’s a busy man.  And he’s going to help me make a couple of videos for 3hundred66days, which is awesome.

In honour of his constant shameless plugging of his work, and because I think this video is hilarious, The Eco-comedian will be my first non-anonymous date of the month.  Here is his video proposal to Laurie David, when she was divorcing from Larry David (of Curb Your Enthusiasm fame):

Tonight

Speed Dating!  I’m really nervous.  I was checking out the questions they suggest and they remind me of interview questions.  I hate interviews!

Try to find out about the person the things that you would need to know in order to want to pursue your connection further, or not. Here are a few fun questions below:

  1. What makes you happy, brings joy to your life?
  2. What do you do on a typical Saturday or Sunday?
  3. Do you believe in love at first sight?
  4. What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done?
  5. What was the funniest thing that has ever happened to you?
  6. Have you ever had a life-changing experience?
  7. What do you think is the most misunderstood thing about your gender by the opposite sex?
  8. What positive quality do you possess that you also look for in others?
  9. Where do you see yourself in five years?
  10. If you could only eat one food for 3 days in a row, what would it be?

Check out all their “fun” questions at 25dates.com